So I attended an old friends birthday. One of those friends you do not keep in contact with years after high school, but you still keep a faint memory of the good times and the chit chatter in the canteen. One of those friends you glance at from time to time on social media down your timeline yet you're not compelled to message them for small talk. Same goes for them. But this same friend (Who hasn't reached out to me in years by the way) suddenly finds a way to my Instagram page, follows me, (as if she had never seen my page before) and sends me a direct message inviting me to her BIRTHDAY BASH!!! *Party poppers*. Now might I add, she had initially invited me THROUGH another friend, and being the kind of person I am...I wasn't having that. Guurrllllllll you know my Facebook, MESSAGE ME. Or else I will pretend I received no such invite. And if we ever cross paths, I sure will tell you the correct and proper way to invite an old friend to your PARRY.
Sooooooooooo the celebrant to be, messages me with the old "LONG TIME!" line and the "I'D LOVE TO SEE YOU!" exclamation, and being the lovely, supportive old time friend that I am...I promised to be there.
And off we went! Me and my bosom buddy who also went to high school with us...baring in mind we were both a little skeptical as it was a little awkward for a girl we hadn't spoken to in years to practically hound us with constant reminders of her upcoming BIRTHDAY BASH!!! *party poppers* . These reminders annoyed the hell out of my friend who later decided she didn't wanna go on the day, because she sounded so desperate! But being the wonderful old time friend that I am, I decided to encourage her.
Blah blah blah the night commenced and it was quite a good night to say the least. We say our goodbyes to the celebrant, pose for a few pictures and home time it was.
Day two: Birthday girl posts a "Happy birthday to me" picture on social media (All the while I am waiting for our thank you for coming message because I can see clearly you are active and awake on the same social media platform you contacted me on)
Day three: No message
Day four: No new messages
Day five: *Tumbleweed rolling*
Day 6: *Crickets*
And so the days went by...
This ungrateful element never said her THANK YOU'S OOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHH. Meanwhile we paid for our own drinks at the...yes you guessed it...BIRTHDAY BASH!!! *Pops a damn party popper* (And the drinks weren't cheap) Not to talk of cab fare! No no no noooooo. Let me rewind <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
When you were searching high and low for crowd to fill up your party space you knew the way to my inbox! But when we don celebrate with u finish, u no know road again abi?! It is well! Diarriz God ooooooooooooo.Why are human beings like this?
This is how I attended a naming ceremony of my friend and his wife, and I carried my two legs on an one and a half hour journey with baby gift... I didn't hear PIM from the parents. But the clown of a Husband managed to Whatsapp me months down the line telling me he "has always wanted me and I am looking sexy" You never thank me for your pikin gift u dey here dey toast me, THUNDER FIIRE Y...
But that's a story for another day.
No no NO. This must stop. I've made it a rule as of TODAY to correct people with such bad habits whenever this should arise again. If you are somebody who does this sort of thing, and not thank those who personally came to celebrate with you. Stop it NOW oooooo. It's an extremely bad bad habit. Not everybody who comes to celebrate with you has no better thing to do or better place to be. Quite frankly I love being in bed reading, watching Nollywood, writing, eating or whatever makes me happy! But if someone you know personally has taken time and effort to celebrate with you, a simple gesture like saying "THANK YOU" will not hurt! I'm not coming from a place of where I think I am special or I am above attending some events, I just mean it is common courtesy. Whether it was a governor, minister or a wash man that attended your event. "Thank you" is just having good manners. I know some people weren't taught this growing up, but guess what...Neither was I! I use my common sense. Because if you could use your fingers or mouth to take out two minutes to invite me somewhere, you could use those se body parts to say your thank you's.
Am I the only one who feels this way?! Please let me know! Is it not that big of a deal??? Anyways as for me sha, you can be sure once I never receive a thank you for gracing your celebration with my presence...I will never attend any of your PARRIES again. Bye.
